"The primary cause of premature ejaculation is a man's inability to sense how close he is to ejaculation" - Said the founder of the Human Sexuality Program in New York.
If you never ever want to have that embarrassing experience of prematurely ejaculating in your pants or within 1-2 minutes then you will have to develop something called Arousal Awareness. This is what the quote refers to.
You most likely aren't able to figure out how aroused you are until you get that feeling in your groin that you are extremely close to ejaculating. This is a lack of sexual awareness.
This lack of sexual awareness is very bad because it causes ridiculously humiliating experiences, you may end up prematurely ejaculating in your pants. You may ejaculate when she is putting on a condom, you may ejaculate when you enter her or shortly after.
Not being able to "read" your own arousal levels is the main reason you prematurely ejaculate.
When you learn how to read your arousal levels you will know when to slow down and what to do in order to avoid ejaculating in your pants or as soon as you start having sex.
By understanding your arousal levels you gain incredible control over your body and gaining this arousal awareness is one of the first steps you must take if you want to overcome premature ejaculation and last longer.
You can measure your arousal level on a scale of 1-10.
At level 1 you are just getting aroused, at level 10 you are so aroused that you are ejaculating.
When you ejaculate in your pants you most likely get to level 9.5 but since you have bad arousal awareness you don't realize it and as soon as she gives you a stroke or two you get to level 10 and you ejaculate.
When you masturbate, do you always know how close you are to ejaculate?
If not, your arousal awareness is bad.
You mostly got this bad arousal awareness because you are distracted when you masturbate, you watch porn or fantasize, you aren't present at the moment and you certainly aren't focused on the sensations in your penis.
By constantly ignoring the sensations that you feel you end up losing the ability to know when you are close to ejaculation, and you also lose the habit of checking in with yourself.
This inability to sense how close you are to ejaculation at all times causes premature ejaculation.
Here's how to develop arousal awareness so that you can protect yourself from premature ejaculation.
When you masturbate do so without hurry, do not try to ejaculate as fast as possible, and do not try to last longer than you normally would.
Check-in with yourself every 10-15 seconds and notice how it feels in your penis.
In the beginning, it may feel a little strange because you aren't used to this.
But when you get to that point where you know exactly how much stimulation you can take before you ejaculate, the easier it will be to slow down. You can change positions or take a 15-second break and NOT prematurely ejaculate.
The reason a lack of sexual awareness is the number one cause of premature ejaculation is this, when you don't know how much sexual stimulation you can take, you may end up initiating sex when you are at a level 9 on your arousal scale, this makes you ejaculate as soon as she touches you.
Think about it, if you are at level 9 you will only need 1-2 minutes of sexual stimulation to get to level 10 and ejaculate.
If however, you start having sex when you are at level 3, then you will need 10 minutes of sexual stimulation before you get to level 10 and ejaculate.
If you can read your arousal levels you can slow down and get it as low as possible before sex starts and immediately you will be able to last longer.
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