So, you want to hook up with a girl? Well, I can’t blame you! Beautiful, attractive, smart women are everywhere. Your desire to get physical is not only natural but also totally understandable.
If you want to know how to hook up with a girl but aren’t sure where to start, you’ve come to the right place. By developing a strategy and taking specific steps, you can set yourself up for success.
First, let’s define “hooking up.” Most often, it translates to “having casual sex.” However, the term holds different meanings, depending on who you talk to.
In certain cases, hooking up simply means meeting up with someone, but that definition is relatively uncommon these days. For some, it might just imply a makeout session, and for others, it may signify doing everything but actual sex.
For all intents and purposes, let’s say hooking up means going all the way with someone you aren’t in a serious relationship with. Are you ready to get started?
1. Flatter her
In general, girls want to hook up with guys who find them attractive--whether she's just someone you met or a booty call who already has some idea that you want to sleep with her. By flattering her, you’ll make her feel like you’re honored to be in her presence and that you know how lucky you’d be to hook up with her.
Does she have one of the prettiest smiles you’ve ever seen? Is she funnier than most people you know? Does she have killer legs, great style, or gorgeous hair? Tell her!
Providing positive affirmations is one of the best ways to get to a girl’s heart––and into her pants. With that said, I don’t recommend spouting out insincere compliments or generic one-liners.
A simple “You’re so hot” might not quite cut it, even if she is so hot. Really take a minute to think about what her most attractive qualities are, and find a charming way to express it to her.
2. Test out your chemistry with a kiss
Beyond flirting and body language, your connection will eventually be put to the test with your first kiss. Is the banter going well? Is she showing her interest by touching your arm, leg, or even your face? If so, there’s a good chance she is open to kissing.
You don’t necessarily have to ask a girl if it’s OK to kiss her, but at the very least, you should pick up on her nonverbal cues. Look into her eyes and tilt your head toward her face, parting your lips slightly. If she’s into it, she’ll lean in, too. Then go ahead and lock lips.
3. Heat things up
After your first kiss or makeout session, you can be relatively certain that she’s attracted to you. Now’s the time to heat things up physically. Try putting a hand on her waist or gently grabbing a handful of her hair.
Maybe squeeze her thigh or rest your hand between her legs. Your confidence at this stage will show her how confident you are in bed. And if things are still flowing, you might have a chance of getting lucky.
Everyone has different comfort levels and boundaries when it comes to PDA. If you had your first kiss at a bar or a party among lots of other people, she might not want to heat things up in that environment. But that doesn’t mean she’s not interested.
4. How to get a girl to hook up with you by communicating your intentions
The next step to hooking up is communicating your intentions. And yes, I mean verbally. You know the classic overprotective fatherly line, “What are your intentions?” Well, what are they?
Of course, if you’re both adults, you won’t need to answer to her parents, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t convey your desire to get it on.
If you’re only interested in casual sex, let her know. Hanging out a few times can be misconstrued as dating, so honesty is crucial. In some cases, hooking up might lead to something more serious. However, if you have no desire in making her your girlfriend, be sure to let her know.
5. Invite her back to your place
Once you’ve expressed your interest in having sex and she responds with reciprocation, you can invite her back to your place. If she says yes, you’re almost there! It may seem obvious, but you should make sure to tidy up before inviting anyone home for sex––bonus points if you wash your bedding, too.
It’s important to note that even if she agrees to come home with you, sex is still not a guarantee. The only way to move things forward when she gets to your place is with an enthusiastic “Yes.” Don’t be afraid of making it awkward or ruining the moment.
Consent is sexy, and without it, hooking up is off the table. Plus, clearly stating your intentions and asking her if she wants to hook up shows confidence. In turn, you’ll come off as even more attractive.
Bonus Tip:
Get a Girl in 3 Steps
1. What type of body do you prefer?
2. How old do you like your women?
3. What type of connection are you seeking?
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